Challenge Your Own Road
How often have our parents evaluated our scores with that of the neighbors , nevertheless on the other hand have you ever felt your friend’s mom prepared dishes way better and tastier than your mom , do you have this friend who has excelled his/her career with a mind-blowing pay scale than anyone else who graduated your time , are you still single while all your friends post their couple goals on social media , are you struggling survival but see your friends plan international Journey’s….
The list doesn’t seem to end however , OMG … Dont you think this is the case with either of them you know of or unfortunately YOU may have landed into this ”Cage of Comparison” , struggling hard everyday to get rid of the inferiors you’ve been going through looking at the social posts of your friends and family. It is highly contiguous and may push us to a phase where we completely try to mimic life of others forgetting the purpose of our existence ..
You’re almost there .. !!!
It is the battle that’s already lost even before you could start. It’s simple and straight forward to just SEE what factor of life are you comparing with and whom are you comparing with.
Let’s see couple of instances that many of us go through in our everyday -
1. Do we compare our financial status with that of our friend ? Why do we compare , when we already know that our friend stands at a better status than ours. Isn’t it like reaching end of the chapter before you could even begin reading the preface ?
In this case , we have damaged our ability to look into your own capabilities , leading our life per the standard set by the society.
2.Have we evaluated our kids progress with that of our neighbors kid? May be we wouldn’t know the flip side of this comparison , instead we’ve been comparing all the one’s that our kid lacks in and the strengths of the other.
Take a vow today, to just notice all the positives our kids possess , this way our way to look at life completely transforms and there wouldn’t be any need to evaluate the progress per the growth scale of our neighborhood. I’m not saying to oversee our kids weaknesses.
“Growth amplifies where strengths are spoken in public and appreciated if possible, weaknesses are to be discussed in individual .”
While most of us do it the other way … !!
“ Turn your WEAKNESSES to STRENGTH”
3.Do we compare our relationship status with that of our friends / relatives ?
Assume , you may have had a quarrel with your husband / wife that day while visiting a friend , however you tend to remain normal greeting “I’m great , how are you doing ? “ , not expressing any of your negative emotions to the society . Just assume that your friend describes her recent anniversary celebrations , I can see many people “drowning to depression”.
It is not because that you aren’t happy in your life , it is just that , on that day , at that moment you aren’t in a position to accept the content as such , instead you exaggerate the quarrel , totally forgetting the beautiful memories you’ve had in your life.
“ Nature sooner or later takes away the blessings which aren’t acknowledged with gratitude”
4.Most of us are jailed in our own lives just by mere materialistic comparison. Few of us feel successful on achieving materialistic goals, like a house , car , etc , while others experience their fulfillment in their contribution to the society. On similar lines , for few of us , their circle of influence is their family and majorly the goal of their life , while others make the entire mankind their family without expecting anything in return.
Now a person ‘X’ for whom health is a major concern compares himself with one who posess quality life , say person ‘Y’. While person ‘Y’ stays healthy, he is person who admires person ‘X’ for his materialistic accomplishments.
“Are we not comparing only the beauty , ignoring the beast ? Partial analysis Is like a rocking chair , it takes you no where yet keeps you occupied “
