Embracing the Frown
How many of us suffer from constipation?
Startled by my question 😁 , you read it right. It all depends on what we ate the last night 😅 Don’t we all know of this ? We do , instead why don’t we extend this dimension to the psychological branch.
Do you think feeding happens only to the body? I might have been under the same impression couple of months back. As I started analyzing my behaviors for the day , I realized what I ate had a direct impact on my body but what I fed my mind with , never showed upon instantly which is why thoughts pile up and outbursts in an uneasy manner either to us or for people around us.
My family has been constantly advising me of what is precise for the people now , what is that we’ve been suffering through and that video of Sadhguru’s at the right time inspired me of this blog today for my readers.
A self interrogation episode begins -
You don’t need to shout out response for my questions now , answer within , most of our questions gets answered in silence.The questions which have grown along with us , which have been nurtured every day , which have been pampered irrespective of it harming us. Let’s drill down to know how “NOT ACCEPTING” situations or people around us is deliberately delaying our peace of mind.
-Have you witnessed your family criticizing you at that tender age of 13 when you did not score good or failed in your school ?
Assume it was then in 1988 that your parents scolded you for not procuring decent enough scores , but do you still recall it when you see your kid’s scorecard or similar such scene in a movie ? Checkout yourself on where you stand on accepting the situation and letting it go.
- Do you have that relative who always waited for an opportunity to humiliate you since your childhood ?
Do you look back in times and experience the humiliation again & again when you meet that relative of your’s . Though the event occurred ages before and JUST ONCE, the episode is still being played back and forth till date.
Instead, accept the person as is and let go of the negative vibes.
-Had you encountered a failure in the past ?Does decision making of the future or the present reminds you of the past ?
You might have done something wrong in the past that might have adversely affected you ,but don’t forget all the things that you did RIGHT. As long as the mistakes you commit are new in your audit , they are absolutely ok , MAKING MISTAKES IS BEING HUMAN.
Acceptance is the guide to self improvement.
-How many of you still remember the times when your husband/wife did not wish on your birthday or wedding anniversary?
Some people do not remember dates , yes , I mean it .. but that doesn’t mean they don’t care for you.Your husband not wishing on your anniversary in the year 2008 is still bothering you in 2021 ? Do you recall this instance every year on your anniversary and taunt intentionally?😜 …You are constantly suffering from constipation.
These are the frequently heard conversations where people keep iterating through memories though these events would have occurred way in the periods of Ramayana or Mahabharata 😅
Though we term ourselves “EVOLVED” , “QUALIFIED” , and what so ever , we are still not able to release that emotional baggage and ACCEPT the situation or the person as is.
We are psychologically still constipating at different levels-
I do not like this person , I do not like that food , I do not approve of the way he behaved with me , he should have been more sensible , why does she taunt in every conversation , why does he complain all the while , why does he not understand me , why does he behave so different … so on…
Only when you stop expecting and ACCEPT the situation or the person as is , the more you’ll be able to explore different dimensions of life , flow with the life energy and evolve gradually.
UNDERSTANDING IS THE FIRST STEP TO ACCEPTANCE , AND ONLY WITH ACCEPTANCE CAN THERE BE RECOVERY — J.K. Rowling
Poppy, the little cute parrot returned to its nest , highly disappointed. The mother parrot on noticing , asks Poppy for what’s bothering him.
Poppy had been on rounds , caught sight of the coolest beaks other birds like Spoonbill , Pelican , Hawk and Eagle had , without realizing and accepting the beauty he possessed , he felt disheartened. The mother parrot unable to convince him, guided him to “Macaw” , the wisest parrot around. Poppy then flew to Macaw wondering if he could replace his stupid beaks with those of the other birds. Macaw and Poppy again went on rounds , on looking at the Spoonbill feeding on worms , Macaw asked Poppy if he would want to eat the worms. Poppy was jolted , felt disgusting and replied a “NO”. They continued their journey to meet Pelican catching fishes. Poppy replied “ That would be the worst nightmare ever”. They then saw the Eagle and the Hawk hunting mice and rabbits. Poppy was now disturbed , the only thing he loved the most were nuts , those hazelnuts.
Poppy now realized that neither of those coolest beaks are designed for him. Instead of comparing the attributes and tastes of others , he learnt accepting and appreciating his fascinating beaks, wings, clow, tail, feather, etc.
Each one of us are here for a purpose , rather envying others for the attributes they possess , you are made with the dynamics you require to prove a remarkable growth just as that “magnificent creation of nature”.
“When you accept yourself , you are freed from the burden of needing others to accept you.” — Steve Maraboli
