Let Go Off .. !!
Do we have baggage checks at the airport ? I know , may sound a little out of track , but I want all of us to answer this question … Majority of the flight services observe maximum check-in and cabin weight limits. Assume , you overload your luggage , you are required to pay excess , correct ? Most of us double check to ensure that we are within the baggage limit , but give it a thought , do we have such a check on our “Emotional Baggage” ? Is it because we don’t need to pay anything in excess that we push ourselves through all the traumas of our past , worries of the future forgetting to live the “PRESENT “. Do we know why many define “LIFE TO BE BEAUTIFUL” ? The only reason being , you never know what’s awaiting you in your journey towards meeting yourself everyday. The person you are today is not the same tomorrow. Why carry the grudge , why carry those emotions that hurt you , why don’t we “let go off”…..
With the grace of great mentors, I’m on my way understanding what FORGIVENESS is. Mother’s act of showering love , father’s mode of ignoring mistakes , chilling out with the same friend you had a big fight last night are all means of Forgiveness which goes unnoticed. Creating pleasantness to the body is health , the same pleasant feeling at the mind drives us to peace , the same is defined Joy , Ecstasy, Pleasure , Gratifying, Delightful,… and so on. When given an option to choose between the above positive emotions VS anger, hatred, resentment, what would anyone choose ? Choose to be vibrant through every moment of your life , but unable to even keep a step ahead ?
Most of us desire to live life to its fullest , but that hostile thought for someone , that anger ,frustration and outrageous behavior towards someone , holding a volcano in the heart , how would a flower ever blossom.. ? We often label “Letting go off” as a Failure , we assume standing strong is to defend and make the opponent either feel guilty of their words or actions. FORGIVENESS is that priceless emotion , that respect , that confidence you give to yourself , experiencing the certainty, self-assured of the way you let go off the memories that drags you to the dark pit. Asking for an apology when in mistake is termed wise , asking for an apology despite being right , is to let people around you know that you value the relationship beyond the correctness. We often feel forgiving others is a favor we do to others. Often , forgiveness isn’t understood correct. FORGIVENESS becomes the TRUTH , when there are no further intentions of creating an unpleasant situation around.
BUDDHA , the person who is admired for his compassion , for his love , for his willingness to accept people as such , once at his ashram could not excuse a businessman for his action. Let’s hear this out…
A businessman once rushed with all the frustration , anger and hatred towards Buddha for the only reason that his children would sit all day long in the ashram with their eyes closed. He often felt that , it was the most dumbest act anyone would do , and wanted his children to return back to work to earn more and more. The moment he reached the ashram , he saw Buddha smiling with closed eyes and all his disciples following him. His hands started shivering , he could not even utter a word , he wanted to disrespect Buddha but since none of his emotions were being expressed appropriately, the only way he could think of is to spat on Buddha’s face. His disciples were furious , but had no option than to remind quiet in Buddha’s presence. Despite of the discourteous act , Buddha remained smiling with his eyes closed.
The businessman returned back home , but couldn’t sleep the whole night. He could see Buddha’s smiling face everywhere around , started shivering , shaking and finally realizing his mistake. He went rushing to the ashram next day morning and begged Buddha to excuse him for which Buddha replied “I’m Sorry , I cannot excuse you”. All his disciples were shocked with his response , it was the same person who accepted people as they are , who dint count in their pasts , and why would he reply so.
Buddha , unfolded the truth “ What should I excuse you for ? That person is not you anymore. If I ever meet the person whom you spat on I’ll ask him to excuse you. The person who is right here , in front of me is a wonderful person , who has analyzed his past actions and has grown above his maturity.”
Forgiveness is not reminding one of their mistakes , even after forgiving them.”Guilt can either hold you back from growing or it can show you what you need to shift in your life”.
“ LIFE IS FAIR … FORGIVE OTHERS , NOT BECAUSE THEY DESERVE FORGIVENESS, BUT BECAUSE YOU DESERVE PEACE”…
